Relationship Quiz

1. My partner criticizes me, puts me down, or calls me names:

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never - - - - --- sometimes - - - - --- always

2. I criticize my partner, put my partner down, or call my partner names:

1 - - - - - 2 - - - - - 3 - - - - - 4 - - - - - 5

never - - - - --- sometimes - - - - --- always

3. My partner has very high or unrealistic expectations of me:

1 - - - - - 2 - - - - - 3 - - - - - 4 - - - - - 5

never - - - - --- sometimes - - - - --- always

4. I have very high or unrealistic expectations of my partner:

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never - - - - --- sometimes - - - - --- always

5. My partner is withdrawn from me.

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never - - - - --- sometimes - - - - --- always

6. I am withdrawn from my partner.

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never - - - - --- sometimes - - - - --- always

While a small amount of some of these behaviors can be normal, high levels can indicate an unhealthy relationship. If you scored 1 or 2 on all or most of these questions you may not need counseling right now. If you scored 3 on all or most of these questions, you may consider seeking couples counseling to enhance certain areas of your relationship. If you scored 4 or 5 on any of these questions, your relationship may benefit from couples counseling.